Moon Square Jupiter & Saturn: Hi Mr. Tree! Meet Miss Butterfly

   Anyone who is familiar with astrology knows that in simple terms, the  study of astrology is basically another study regarding the laws of attraction.  Our natal make up of planets, signs, houses, and aspects can lead us to be mesmerized and hypnotized by certain events, things, and people...even aspects of our own selves.  

I am consistently fascinated by the recurring qualities that attract or repel me to certain people and I am always shocked to learn how many of these people share the same astrological qualities.  It's draw dropping each and every time.  These qualities, about eighty-five percent of the time, show up without fail.

For some reason, throughout most of my adult life, I have not only been attracted to but I have been strongly attached to many Moon Square/Opposite/Semi-Square Saturn folks.  The attraction to those with this aspect that I have encountered has been unequivocal compared to other aspects I encounter in the people that have come and gone throughout my life.  In each of these cases, whether good friend or lover - female or male, not one has had the same Moon or Saturn. However, they each have either a Saturn and/or a Moon that aspects my natal Sun or Moon in either a Trine, Sextile or Conjunction.  

Even though this aspect is not the most exact aspect between our charts and other Moon/Saturn aspects are at play, somehow I feel very drawn to the Moon-Saturn natal aspect in their personalities.  In fact, I get pretty obsessed with it.  I am not a technical astrologer and all of my astrological learnings are based off of observation and intuition, but somehow the attraction may be due to my natal Moon Square Jupiter aspect. 

According to Robert Hand in his book Planets in Youth: Patterns of Early Development, the polarity between Jupiter and Saturn is the interplay between expansion versus limitations.  Strong-Jupiter, weak-Saturn folks need to find balance from those with Saturn qualities to become more responsible and disciplined.  Strong-Saturn, weak-Jupiter folks need to find balance from those with Jupiter qualities to become less fearful, narrow, and suspicious.  

Moon Square Jupiter folks like myself, are very emotionally generous to the point that they can be taken advantage of.  I find that I constantly overstate my emotions.  I may kind of like someone and have certain reservations about them but how I actually feel and what comes out my mouth may not completely match.  Instead of just saying "This person is cool but I have my reservations", I'm more likely to say "I am so in love with so and so" then skip a way with a sigh and smile as if I were parading through a field of sunflowers and strawberries.  I'll take a whole 2 hour break at work to take the new intern out to lunch so I can get to know them and so that they can feel welcomed despite what is on my to-do list for the day (I mean, a half hour would suffice right?).  I find that I often get in situations where I am trying to mediate a situation for the sake of the group, usually putting my own personal needs on the back burner.  Then I am usually disappointed when I find that members of the group do not do the same which makes me very depressed....for awhile...then I am back to doing the same thing telling myself "if they get over on me oh well, I can't stop being me!". Hence, I constantly feel like a gradually swinging emotional pendulum where I often get out of touch with my true feelings and confuse myself and others.  I swing back and forth from listening to my emotional gut instincts and vibes which may not always be positive to spin doctoring every emotional situation to be very positive and optimistic. People every once in the blue moon peg me for a liar and exaggerator but I do not feel as if I am either.  Anything I say is the truth at the time but it swings back to something else when I am trying to reconcile the contrasting feelings within me...some times this can happen within the same sentence.  I suggest that when dealing with Moon Square Jupiter folks, look at it as if they are working out a problem out loud and jump in to help them solve it instead of questioning their intent. Moon Square Jupiter folks are emotional in that they are sensitive to others and their environment but they preserve their dignity and will work to keep from forfeiting their self-respect. 

Moon Square Saturn folks on the other hand, act as if they live in an emotional government.  They act as if it is against the law to be frivolously happy. They live their lives as if the law states "He that acts with open happiness and spontaneity will be punished by death" (in my Zeus voice).  Everything is taken soooo literally. They are emotionally self-protective sometimes at the expense of others.  They seem to be constantly plagued by learning the life lesson that their is wisdom in letting go...and that it is okay to look at things from a place of compassion and love without having to reprimand yourself or others.  They seem to accept things as they are and are not inclined to expand and grow.  Often, they struggle with not feeling good enough in their relationships. However, they approach life with a strong sense of values, practicality, and maturity.  They are responsible and do not shirk from work.  

Based on the Jupiter-Saturn polarity, I think this is why the Moon Square Jupiter and Moon Square Saturn interplay is so strong in my life.  Somehow, we tend to emotionally balance each other out and help each other reach an equilibrium.  The squares in our charts make each of us an extremist regarding emotional growth versus emotional restriction.  Together we what I'd like to coin as "trine it out". Bringing each other back to the middle is not always easy but if anyone is going to accomplish the task it is going to be a Moon Square Jupiter person for the Moon Square Saturn and vice versa.  Even though they each can become a little annoyed by the others ways, each senses that there is something to learn and each appreciates the balance that the other brings them.  The Moon Square Saturn person keeps Jupiter's pendulum from moving by helping Jupiter hone in on the heart of what they are truly feeling and teaching them to act accordingly....even if it means things will not be easy.  The Moon Square Jupiter person can actually make the Saturn person feel safe enough to crack a smile not just on their face but be able to smile on the inside....they appreciate someone who can find the good and beauty in people even those with a gruff and hard front.

To the Moon Square Jupiter person, the Moon Square Saturn person is absolutely beautiful and it breaks their heart that person doesn't know it.  They become fixated on trying to bring warmth to a person they admire...someone who has the qualities that they do not have.  The Moon Square Saturn person, although they can be drowning to the Moon Square Jupiter person's optimism, tends to provide an unwavering amount of support for Moon Square Jupiter. 

The interplay between these aspects to me reminds of the flirtation of a butterfly to a strong solid tree.  Trees have no legacy without butterflies and butterflies sustain their lives off of trees. A butterfly will flitter and dance round and round a tree which is unmovable and rooted in the ground, however, they work together in a natural balance where the tree is called home.


Moon Square Jupiter  -  Moon Square Saturn Conversation

Jupiter:  Let's go out this weekend, they are having a GNO event in DC!
Saturn:  I don't like GNO events.  Girly things make me gag.  I'm not girly.
Jupiter: Aww but it would mean a lot to me if you would go.
Saturn: I have a lot to do. Why don't you go with someone who'd enjoy it?
Jupiter: Because, I want to go with someone I like.
Saturn: I went out with you the last time. Hanging with you is too expensive.
Jupiter: Well what is the use of having money if you don't spend it?
Saturn: Everyone doesn't have to do what you want to do just because you like it.
Jupiter:  I'm not trying to force my views on people, I just want to spread happiness.
Saturn:  Well it makes me happy to not go.
Jupiter:  But what about me? You can't just think about what makes you happy.
Saturn:  Why not?
Jupiter:  Because that's boring.  (note: not the real reason they want to say...what they want to say is because it hurts their feelings and they are taking it personally)
Saturn: Well I have my values.
Jupiter: What does this have to do with values?
Saturn: Not everyone has to be spontaneous.
Jupiter:  It's not about spontaneity it's about other people and making other people happy but I'm not saying being self-protective is wrong. Ill pay if you want?
Saturn:  No, Ill pay and Ill drive.
Jupiter: Drive? What do you think Ill kidnap you? Well at least you are going.
Saturn:  I'm not going
Jupiter: You know, you won't loose an arm and no one will die if you go?
Saturn: I know
Jupiter: So what's the big deal? What are you afraid of? (what they really want to asks is why don't you like me?)
Saturn: My mom was really traditional and churchy and wanted me to be girly when I was a tomboy. So I don't like girly events.
Jupiter: Oh, well....I'm afraid of the kool-aid man. He terrifies me! But somehow, I still don't want a roommate even though I sleep with the covers over my head.
Saturn: (falls to ground laughing) You are not afraid of a robber but you are afraid of the kool-aid man? What about Mr. Potatoe Head?
Jupiter: OMG! Not Mr. Potatoe Head! Soooo.......are you going?
Saturn: Okay, not on Friday but let's go on Saturday.