Myth & Myth Makers: The Low Down on Mars and Marriage

It has been eons since I have written in this blog. I must say a lot has happened over the past three years. For starters, the reason for my hiatus is that I went back to school to get my Masters (Saturn transiting 3rd house) to make a career change into healthcare (Neptune transiting 6th house) - one of the best decisions I have made to date. Throughout my time away, I have also encountered many astrological lessons and have made many astrological observations. Today, I want to begin my installment of my Myth & Myth Makers series. As a Scorpio, I often tire of reading and re-reading how jealous, manipulative, and sexually oriented I am supposed to be. I feel the typical Scorpio descriptions I read often remind me of my sisters who are both Aries. Really, when you think about, the Scorpio stereotypes can be heavily applied to the Aries woman. The premise of the Myth & Myth Makers series is to dispel the astrological stereotypes and get down to the nitty gritty of how astrological characteristics play out in real life. For instance, as a Scorpio, I can tell you first hand that my life goal is not to be a controlling, powerful, sex goddess. Scorpios are water signs meaning they are non-threatening. Secondly, Scorpios are known to be martyrs - we are relationship oriented signs where partnership and emotional bonding is important. We are huge on giving back and humanitarianism. But I digress, I will stand on my 'Scorpios are not who you think they are' soapbox another day. Today, I want to talk about our dominating signs and Mars.

 

Often, it is a school of thought that we are our Sun sign. Although our Sun sign does have a significant influence - especially when aspected by another planet - I rarely feel that I encounter a person's Sun sign on the day-to-day basis. For instance, my closest friends are a Virgo, Leo, and Taurus. Although their Sun signs are vastly different, they all have a Moon sign in Pisces that compliments my Moon in Scorpio (yes, I'm a double Scorp - go run and hide!). I think it is a widely excepted notion that the Moon is who we are and Sun is who we strive to be. I agree with this astrological theory. However, I like the fact that astrology takes into account the complexities and dynamics of the human personality. From my observations, I would go one step further and say that we encounter a person's Mars more often than not in our day-to-day encounters. The Moon sign may be why there is an intuitive understanding of each other, but Mars is what makes each person want to spend time together and in a way, pursue each other (and I am not just talking about in a dating sense, this refers to any relationship). Mars is what makes the relationship happen - at least from what I have seen. Astrologers usually say that having aspects to the composite Sun is what makes a relationship move forward or have a purpose - but, I personally have not seen this play out. It's all about compatible Mars if you ask me (correction, compatible Venus to Mars and Sun).     

 

I could be overgeneralizing but I think the Mars sign is a good indication of the type of marriage partner a person is likely to be. I was on facebook the other day and some ignoramous shared a post that said: "The Wifey Squad: Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn, Cancer, Libra, Sagittarius, Leo. The Side Chick Squad: Gemini, Scorpio, Aquarius, Pisces, Aries". I call this 30 year old Leo an ignoramous because any person who views relationships in terms of wifey versus side chick obviously has some growing to do. But that is besides the point. From those that I have encountered, I find when it comes to what some may deem as spousal material (wife or husband), the Mars sign is more telling. Even in the post presented by my facebook acquaintance, I think the post is more true of those with Mars in those particular signs.  Below, is a break down of my personal observations. These statements may be a little bias because of how my own chart interacts with each of these signs (I have a Mars in Libra) and what planets the Mars interacts in the people that I know charts. But, since Mars is a relationship planet along with Venus, I say that I could possibly be on the right track.

 

From my observations, spousal material as far as Mars is concerned can be broken down as follows:

 

Best

Taurus, Cancer, Libra, Capricorn

 

Neutral

Aries, Leo, Virgo, Aquarius

 

Worst

Gemini, Scorpio, Sagittarius, Pisces

 

Generally speaking, mutable Mars signs make the worst spousal partners and cardinal signs make the best. Fixed are neutral. Additionally, earth Mars signs are also well suited for marriage/longevity. None of these descriptors are geared toward one sex or the other. The characteristics that I have seen from each of these signs play out in the following way - keep in mind, however, that some of these characteristics are not all necessarily what you would expect from each sign (esp. Scorp, Sag, Aqu, Pis):

 

I have observed that the first four Mars signs tend to very entitled and self-motivated to a certain extent.

 

Mars in Aries

• entitled in relationships
• self-motivated toward direct self-expression, no questions asked
• naïve but will drop someone quickly if deceived
• ambitious but poorly executes their ambitions and has unlived potential
• not domestic in a traditional sense but will make an attempt based on what they see others do (will buy food and allow you to think they made it but honest about it if you ask - every now and again will put a little effort) - not too good of cooks but clean
• skeptical of marriage since they like to maintain independence (a few friends with this placement have turned down proposals)
• the roommate who has sex in the house while you are there, and makes a bit of a show out of it
• talks about the love of being in love but still comes off as non-committal
• fun and very spirited
• will get jealous of the attention a grand-parent gives their kid (they didn't give ME that much attention when I was young!!!)
• surprisingly, not very much of a fighter but will back a friend or partner up when there is not much of a choice (usually leaves a tense situation before it escalates)

 Mars in Taurus

• entitled in relationships
• self-motivated by material gain
• domestic but not weak
• competitive with the neighbors (they have a pool, I want a pool too!)
• headstrong but in an overprotective, I know what's best for you because I care sort of way (think of the mom in the show Reba)
• resilient
• financially stable
• stubbornly controlling of children (unless they have a problem child, then they are hands off)
• humorous and witty
• cooks but doesn't follow a recipe - figures it out on their own (and tastes great!)
• likes partners that bend to their will - only if it is something that they care about such as making conversation with the opposite sex and loosing their things.
• marries for companionship or financial stability (without being a gold-digger).
• religious
• although they have a presence, they also have a laid-back way about them

Mars in Gemini

• entitled in relationships
• self-motivated by the need for their own personal mental stimulation
• loves masculinity/obsessed with machismoness
• believes in social popularity - goes along with what they believe is cool which can sometimes be considered lowbrow even in older age
• makes an attempt at trendiness
• cannot keep a job/financially unstable
• outspoken and offensive, opinionated but fickled
• lacks accountability
• loves to plan fun but often lacks follow thru
• drama addict
• likes to tell people their partners are controlling when they themselves are more demanding than they led on
• learns domesticity from their partner, else, are not domestic at all - will attempt to rise to the occasion (and surprisingly doesn't do too bad of a job)
• marries for convenience or gets knocked up (watch out...it's a trick!)
• a believable liar
• loves children for the sake of looking as if they are domestic - likes the kudos of appearing to be a person with responsibilities
• loads of fun when hanging out
• seeks authority positions at work and within their relations to others but their lack of tact and the fact they do not do research lands them in hot water
• Unintentionally use people (they do not do it with malice and feel it's harmless - after all, isn't one-sided favors the definition of friendship/relationships?)
• Values honesty (of others) even if it hurts (real friends/partners tell the truth!)
• conceited
• jealous of siblings who they perceive to be considerably more successful than they are (and will not attempt to hide it)
• does not like to step outside of comfort zone
• gives the impression of being a fighter but talks and yells a lot (relies on the back up of friends)

Mars in Cancer

• entitled in relationships
• self-motivated by their need for their own emotional satisfaction (sorry Cancers...I know you are nurturing and we love you for it but....seeing past your own emotions is a challenge for you)
• compassionate (however, their compassion leads to naivety and they can be open to unscrupulous partners)
• believes in the promises of lovers too easily and holds on to them (suuuurrre you and your good friend, who talks about his/her player ways, will be married in 10 years if each of you cannot find anyone)
• although easily attaches, still maintains a sense of unobtrusive leadership in their relations with others - very tenacious
• tenacity allows them to not give up on their partner or relationships - they have longevity similar to earth signs
• believes in fairness (do not have favorite children, have a hard time choosing amongst best friends)
• surprisingly, domestically they are very very lazy but every now and then will have a surge to cook and clean
• romantically boring (many friends with this placement have had dates where person has cut date short - some are lookers and are smart so my only guess is that maybe they are boring)
• loves children/caretakers (family over everything!)
• moody
• marries for love and best friendship
• likes long conversations
• tries to be a good friend but isn't obsessed with it
• very jealous and unapologetic about partnerships - jealous of same-sex friends who they perceive to be considerably more successful than they are (and will not attempt to hide it)
• will try to solve problems with family, friends, and partners through the 'gift' of counseling
• surprisingly, will step out of their comfort zone (they look at it as self-development)

 

The second four Mars signs tend to be the most relationship oriented to a certain extent and are very adaptable to partners. Relationships, friendships, and the opposite sex is very important to them.

 

Mars in Leo

• adaptable to partner and friends
• focused on their partnership and friendships, very committed to their relationships
• attention seeking, loves to perform
• chases partner - likes the thrill of obtaining admiration from a spouse - likes hard to get
• dedicated to their positions of authority and friendships over family
• non-judgmental
• will allow their children to have a house full of friends (even though they can be slightly resentful about it)
• bold about their actions
• non-introspective
• messy - not very domestic, but likes to cater to partner
• tends to follow the spouses interests (their partner's interests becomes their interests)
• sporty
• always networking to hang out with others
• financial dependence if partner allows it but knows how to be independent if necessary
• financially generous if they have it to spare
• loves to dance (primarily women)
• territorial with partners (not against popping up places to ensure you are staying faithful if they suspect cheating)
• loves children as long as parental responsibilities does not interfere with their hobbies and relationship obligations
• may put partner before children
• win them over by inviting them to the beach

Mars in Virgo

• adaptable to partner and friends (although fussy and resentful about it)
• extremely slow to pursue dating prospects especially if they like them
• may be prone to entering relationships with needy partners
• hyper-critical of their family members and partners
• critical ways stem from the pressure they feel to appear competent and provide financially to others (paying for things for your Mars in Virgo will win you points!)
• easily resentful of financial dependence of others
• obsessive compulsive disorder (kids messiness throws them waayy off balance)
• falls for partners easily but does not make it apparent (good communication is important)
• marries as a means to 'do the right thing' (will not marry if you are messy, financially dependent, or make them feel incompetent)
• loves strip teases
• know-it-alls
• surprisingly are very open to new experiences and likes to stay active (Virgo busyness in full effect - travel is important)
• cleans and cooks
• good with taking care of animals
• attentive parent but needs frequent breaks (mom-caves and man-caves are needed!)
• jealous - will stalk a partner suspected of cheating or leaving
• fights when directly attacked
• once bitten, twice shy - does not take rejection well
• responsible and dependable friend

Mars in Libra

• adaptable to partner and friends
• compromising - does not sweat the small stuff - tactful
• straight forward but tries to be polite about it
• resilient although has to gradually learn resilience
• gentlemen/women - equally likes to cater to partner and be catered to
• surprisingly, extremely vengeful (moreso than Scorpio) - unrelentlessly tit for tat and feels the need to win at all costs (bitchiness on 1000 if crossed)
• ambitious but gets overwhelmed by lack of time from their social calendar - likes the accolades of having an admirable career
• territorial of their partners but too lazy to do much about it (is yelling at someone really worth the effort - it's better to mysteriously disappear and let the person figure it out)
• Likes watching sports (may not avidly keep up with sports or be sports crazy but likes it as a social event)
• very open to new experiences and likes to stay active
• lusty but not in an intense way (avid porn watchers)
• uses people to get their needs met (Libra charm at it's finest)
• extremely flirtatious but faithful
• secretly wants to be knocked up or knock someone up but fears the shame of the opinion of others
• tries to be a good friend
• a partner's looks are extremely important
• does not appear domestic but is domestic in a low-key way (cooks very well but will hire someone to clean or get their mother to do it)
• good with kids but am not against dropping children off to grand-parents on occasion
• win them over by cleaning their house, cooking for them, or throwing them a small party
• to lazy to fight but will use legal means if necessary (don't we pay taxes to police for a reason?)...however, will fight for the underdog
• refined tastes

Mars in Scorpio

• adaptable to partners and friends
• intelligence of a partner is extremely important
• surprisingly, sexually shyer than expected
• low-key ambition, however, work and status is extremely important
• More focused on status than actually getting married - will marry to keep up with the status quo of friends
• likes domestic partners, however, they tend to fall for demanding partners that still somehow manage to take care of them
• non-threatening, not fighters but can be very disrespectful and rude - persistent to state their position - can be punks otherwise
• persistent - does not take 'no' for an answer - always appears/is around
• not prone to faithfulness (they go to whoever has the most candy or makes them looks the best - again, status is important)
• high-standards for others
• ulterior motives in the associates they keep
• picks at the esteem of a partner - often using as a manipulation tactic
• jealous of those of the same sex, such as friends, but not a jealous partner
• girlish/boyish way about them
• will care for children
• physically lazy (but may like to jog)
• not very adventurous (movies and restaurants are the extent of their fun - maybe invite others for drinks at their home)

The last four Mars signs tend to fluctuate between being adaptable in their relationships and pursuing their own self-interests.

Mars in Sagittarius

• fluctuates between being adaptable in their relationships and pursuing their own self-interests
• surprisingly, gold-diggers - money is very important (may be the reason for the Sagittarius entrepreneurial spirit) - if they do not have a stable or lucrative career, may pursue lowbrow means to collect money
• spirited
• non-judgmental and surprisingly very compassionate
• leads with sex
• likes the club on occasions
• open to any activity if it doesn't cost too much, appreciates time with friends
• tries to be a good friend
• uses people
• not very discerning
• surprisingly are into brand names (mostly the women - men, not so much)
• likes to have their way
• women marry for money, men marry for friendship
• fights with words - poignant and slightly caustic
• tries to be fair in their relationships - takes accountability (although may repeat the same mistakes)
• not domestic - expect take-out - will cook to impress you but not an everyday occurrence
• likes kids but doesn't want to pay for them or be tied down with having to discipline them
• does not mind text conversations over phone calls

Mars in Capricorn

• fluctuates between being adaptable in their relationships and pursuing their own self-interests
• wants to appear to have status
• ambitious but success is slow paced due to the need to create their own resistance and/or occasional laziness
• uses success as a means to get back at those who have disappointed them
• will discount the opinions of those who seemingly do not have power and authority many times to their own detriment
• drawn to partners who have power and authority - however, have a hard time landing a partner with power and authority due to the fact they have a tendency to confuse the love of their partner's status with having love for their partner
• pretentious without having their own success - believe they are successful by association (my best friend lives in a mansion, therefore I am someone with status or...my grandparents own two homes, one overseas, therefore I am one with status)  
• If they do not have a high profile job, feels very behind in life but if they do, many of the negative qualities of this placement is negated
• Takes a while to move out on their own (all but one friend I have with this placement live at home and will rarely disclose their actual living arrangements - the one who does live on their own is also one with a high profile job)
• a very good friend - will go out of their way for friends - very appreciative of those who support them
• surprisingly open to new experiences and will take well though- out risks
• can be rude but in a low key, not in your face way (I think they are offending me but, I'm not quite sure)
• does not like to turn down a dare
• witty
• domestic but it does not come naturally, however, they have the patience and tenacity to put great effort into mastering cooking and taking care of children
• has a difficult time really knowing themselves - tends to go with the flow and adapt the interests of those they are closest to - this is most true if they do not have a high profile career
• financially generous - even when they do not have it to spare
• does not take rejection well - can be subtly vengeful (will become caustically nasty out of the blue, will 'accidently' leak your business to the wrong person) 
• can be stubbornly persistent when they need something from someone
• holds their friends, family members, and spouse in very very high regard
• great networkers
• over protective of loved ones especially children
• very good with children - excellent disciplinarians who know how to balance touch love with even handedness